5 Ways to Control your Emotions, Instantaneously.

Always be yourself and have faith in yourself.

Do you also lack emotional control and suffer from mental burden? Do things trigger you and make you feel bad for no reason? A fight with your partner or a rude response makes you feel less important for days?

If Over-thinking, over-stress and under-thinking yourself is destroying your mental health, you must try these quicky tricks to control and manage your emotions. This is important because nobody and nothing in this world is as important as you are. Compromising your mental and emotional health is never a good option.

Try these scientifically proven, easy techniques to feel better, improve emotional control and avoid negative feelings. Trust me, once you start feeling better about yourself, everything will start getting better. Your family, friends, co-workers and your life, everything will get better, improved, and happy. Wish you all the luck!

1. Aim for regulation, not repression

“ The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” — Dalai Lama.

We often feel incarcerated by our emotions. It makes us feel heavy and sometimes, we wish if we could just forget everything in our head, or can totally clear our mind. Well, it doesn’t works this way and we end up, trying hard to repress our feelings. It can be good for the moment but not for-ever. You’re preventing yourself to feel and to experience emotions. We think we overfeel, and struggle to forget our emotions, our feelings and also, bad memories and experiences. But this repression is taking you far away. No doubt, you will forget things for the moment, maybe for life but your charm will also vanish. You will lose your mental health, and there’s a huge risk of suffering from depression, anxiety and distress.

Feelings and emotions are temporary, for the moment and in the moment, but repression of them can cost you a lifetime. Experiencing your emotions, and expressing your feelings makes you stronger, healthier and full of life.

Do not try to suppress or repress your emotions, try to feel them. Experience them and become mentally stronger. Repression can cause a lifetime fear of bad memories and experiences, and can affect future relationships, work and life.

2. Keep a mood journal

“ Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” — John Lennon.

Expressive writing in a mood journal can help you a lot to control and manage your fears, feelings and emotions. A mood journal helps one to improve mood and prioritize yourself from your fears, problems and concerns. A daily-habit of journaling provides an opportunity for positive self-talk, and also to recognize your emotional triggers. Once you get into a habit of writing and expressing yourself, fully in a journal, you will start tracking your symptoms and can also, manage it by taking appropriate measures.

Start journaling everyday and express yourself without the fear of being judged.

Tracking your emotions helps you to identify symptoms, triggers and also, helps to control and manage them.

You can learn or find new ways for relaxation, which could help you feel calm, happy and carefree.

Prioritize yourself if you want to live a happy, joyful and contented life.

3. Accept all of your emotions

“ Get busy living or get busy dying.” — Stephen King.

Try comforting yourself with encouraging words every time you find yourself overthinking, stressed and lacking control over your emotions. We need to understand that humans are the only species to feel emotions and experience them. This often becomes a problem when we are in a bad atmosphere, an abusive family or unhealthy relationship, but looking the other way around, there are few things that can change the way we look at our feelings. We get hurt when somebody gets rude with us, we feel distress when someone says any mean things to us, and so on.

Acceptance can change our lives. Accepting our fears, triggers, emotional drama, flaws and everything can for sure make us feel much more confident about ourselves. It can turn the tables around and help us to build and create self confidence, self-esteem and trust.

You can not be perfect with everything. Trying hard for perfection may damage your mental health and physical feelings. Acceptance can be an escape from the problem. If you hate something, try to accept it. Trust me, it helps.

4. Label and Reframe your moods

“ You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West.

Everytime you start feeling stressed and over-emotional, try not to react instantly and rather give yourself some second to think. Think what’s triggering you and answer these 3 questions- “Why am I feeling this?”, “Is there a need to react and stress myself for this particular thing?” and “Is the situation that important to risk my happiness?”

As soon as you get these answers for yourself, analyze, and label your emotions to identify the triggers and situation better. This will help not only to control and manage emotions, but also will change your perspectives about it.

Reframing is also a saviour here. It could help you to think in a different way and change your opinion to something better. This techniques of labelling emotions, tracking and identifying them and then reframing can be very helpful in stressful situation.

5. Find a mood booster

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”– Albert Einstein

A hug from your loved one or a nice walk can change how you feel, completely. Whenever there’s a emotional or mental burden, try all the 4 techniques and then try to make yourself feel better. Finding a mood booster for yourself (coz everyone is different so, a pleasure for someone can be a punishment for someone else) can dopamine, serotonin, cortisol and most importantly oxytocin.

Get outside, walk your dog, light some candles, read your favourite book, cook your favourite dinner, get some ice-cream or maybe just a hug.
Negativity is good for nothing, and it should be destroyed immediately.

Do what-so-ever you love doing, make yourself feel better and cherish life.

Happy Monday!




A satvik journo talking about health, personal development and productivity.

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A satvik journo talking about health, personal development and productivity.

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